I hope that everyone is well.
But you know what? If you aren’t, that’s okay here too.
That’s ALWAYS true, but the occasional reminder never hurts.
And let’s be real: even if you’re all right generally, Mondays sometimes have trials of their own.
This week I happened to be reminded of Sanctus Real, who I hadn’t thought of in ages, and of their song I’m Not Alright.
Which reminded me that it can be difficult, or uncomfortable, or downright scary, to say “I’m not all right“.
Why is that?
It’s as if we live backwards. If there is anything we need to be free to say, isn’t “I’m not all right” just about as important as it gets? Yet these are the words so many of us will do anything to avoid saying.
And sometimes with good reason, which is so sad – some of us have learned that words like these don’t always connect with help.
Personally, I’ve been blessed to have lots of people who were there for me when I said “I am NOT ALL RIGHT!”.
People who said “Well, let’s talk.”
or “Me either, but I’ll help if I can.”
or just “I’m sorry, and I love you.”
And that really makes me want to be the kind of person who offers that to others, you know?
Because we’re all not all right sometimes, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Indeed, I suspect that part of why we are not all right sometimes is to teach us how to be community. Like, maybe we aren’t supposed to struggle along alone.